Mom guilt. That moment when you feel like a failure. The moment your child says or does something that you wish you could have or would have stopped before it happened. Being a mom is hard! Really hard! I mean we didn't get an owners manual for our kids at the hospital! Or did we? Do we need to be so hard on ourselves?
Mom guilt has been plaguing me for 13 years. December 2006 I became a mom for the first time at the ripe old age of 22. It is a wonder he is still living! HAHAHA! No seriously. We do the best we can. And TODAY I have something that is going to make you feel sooooo much better about yourself! You ready for it?
The mother of the Messiah, Mary (and Joseph) messed up, BIG TIME! Like have you ever lost your kid???? For 4 days....lost your kid????? Mary did! Let's read it together.
"After the festival was over, while his parents were returning home, the boy Jesus (who was 12 at the time) stayed behind in Jerusalem, but the were unaware of it. Thinking he was in their company, they traveled on for a day. Then they began looking for him among their relatives and friends. When they did not find him, they wet back to Jerusalem to look for him. AFTER THREE DAYS THEY FOUND HIM in the temple courts, sitting among the teacher's listening to them and asking them questions." Luke 2:43-46
Can you imagine!!!!?????? Imagine the fear in Mary's heart!! Where is my baby boy? What have I done? How could I have DONE SUCH A THING? Do you hear those things you are saying to yourself?? If MARY THE MOTHER OF JESUS messed up as a mom, what makes you think that we can even entertain the idea of being perfect moms??? We are human!! We are going to mess up! And that makes us good moms I think! Allow me to explain.
We are not perfect moms so we can't have perfect kids! We can not expect them to be perfect, just like we can't expect perfection of ourselves. When we mess up, and we will- its just a matter of when- we need to turn our shortcomings into lessons. Lessons where we ask forgiveness if needed from our kids for our mistakes. Where we tell them we are sorry and we love on them and hug them and use our example to teach them.
Imagine you saying this to your son or daughter----
"See son/daughter mommy isn't perfect, and I don't expect you to be either. But what we do when we mess up, is we say we are sorry and we try to learn from our mistakes. I will never expect you to be perfect, son/daughter but I expect you to do the best you personally can. From time to time you will mess up, just like I just did, but LOVE, LOVE always forgives and we move on. Will you forgive mommy? If you come to me when you make a mistake, I will be here for you!"
See, Mary wasn't perfect and look at how Jesus turned out! We need to do the best we possibly can, and when we do fail, we apologize and learn from it. But to EXPECT PERFECTION IS DOOM!!! Today mama, just say yes we have messed up, every single mama out there has messed up. But today, we pick up, dust off, and press forward, minus the perfection mentality!
P.S. When a mama friend you know messes up, remember it could have been you. Is it really helpful to gossip about her? Or condemn her? No it is not! We need to be kind like we would like to be treated.
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